3 posts tagged “love”

Since I am not going to be home in Maine with my family for Thanksgiving, my boyfriend and i decided that we would volunteer at a soup kitchen to pass out Thanksgiving dinner to people who are homeless, or people who cannot afford Thanksgiving dinner.
 We decided to do this instead of cooking dinner just for us, because we figured that it wouldnt be worth buying all that food for just the two of us. I cannot wait, i am very excited to give my time to people who are not fortunate enough to have a Thanksgiving dinner.
We figured if we are not going to be able to be with our families on Thanksgiving, then we might as well help out other people and make sure that their families are happy on this day of Thanks.

So Happy Early Thanksgiving to all of you, I hope that it is lovely!

*Peace and Love

So Christmas is almost here, and i am so excited for it this year! As you might have already known I moved to a different state far from home, so i dont get to visit with my family hardly at all. Rather than when i was living with my family. ;-). But for Christmas I am flying home to spend the holidays with my family! I am so happy to go home and see my family i am just a little bit homesick. It isnt like when i was going to college only 2 hours away from them when i first started college. But now I have to fly back, considering I am approximately 13 states away from them. Which that should be exciting, our flight isnt a non-stop one so we are stopping in Ohio at the Ohara international airport. I still cant understand why they sent us way up to Ohio when we are traveling back to Maine, but oh well, Im still excited :-P.
Im am also excited about seeing snow again! I miss it already. Yes, Florida is nice, but snow, come on you cant live without it!!!! When i come off the plane i might just have to roll around in some snow we will see. It is getting pretty cold down here in Florida though, surprisingly...well i was surprised. I literally could see my breath tonight when i was outside, that is defiantly a Maine thing, being so cold. But it gets pretty cold down here too. Its funny that a few months ago i thought that i would be laying in the sun in November and December...but thats not happening (geez whats gonna happen to me when i go back to Maine? I'll probably have to be issued into the hospital for hypothermia!) LOL. But, yes i can deffinatly tell that cold weather is coming...because my lips are chapped. (I hate that so much ). 
Im not going to ask for anything for Christmas this year...Im just really excited about getting to go back home to see all of my family and friends. Thats all i could ever want. Presents dont mean anything to me. Theres nothing like sitting by the Christmas tree with your family sipping hot cocoa and just talking about random things. MMM cant wait for that. Speaking of Christmas tree it is going to be the first year that i am not around to help pick out the tree (sad im growing up :-( ... Hope my parents pick out a cute one! I am sure they will.
My sleeping patterns have gotten so weird. Right now it is almost 3 o clock in the morning and i am wide awake. A couple of months ago i would have been in bed 4 hours ago! hah. Oh well. I get my beauty sleep believe me. :-P.
Well this post was kind of random and short, i just wanted to update y'all on some of my plans for the future holidays. CANT WAIT! woot woot.

Peace and Love Vox family! <3

In my philosophy class this evening we discussed a very interesting topic, one in which could think one way or the other way very easily. The discussion was about sergeant mothers, whether or not adoption is the same as being a sergeant mother. There are many reasons that one would think they could potentially be the same thing, because they both lean the same way, and they both create the same thing...life. So is taking a sperm from a guy and an egg from a girl and planting it into someone elses uterus the same as finding a child and adopting it? I personally think that they are two very different things. A lot of my classmates said that they believed that it "sounded" the same because either way you were "paying" for the child. This sentence in general just makes me want to vomit my dinner. Yes, when you adopt a child there is a lot of paper work and you need a lawyer, depending on the case most of the time it doesnt even have to be taken to court, so with that in mind you are paying some money but it is a little strong when people say "buying". They were making it sound like buying a soda at the grocery store...Anyway, on the other hand with the whole sergeant mother deal I would probably have to say that yes, again it costs alot of money and this time you are not only paying lawyers, and courts, and all the other details but you are paying someone to physically carry "your" child for 9 months, and make sure that it is to your potential. You can go either way on this one, but once again i have to say that i dont think this is "buying" a child either. You may not agree with it, be totally against, and all the other details in between but in NO way is it buying children.
I personally would not want to be a sergeant mother. I would think that it is physically, and emotionally damaging to your health to carry a child for 9 months and just hand it over and take the cash. That sounds kind of harsh, but it is just my personal opinion. There are many people in the world that love to be pregnant just dont want to take the responsibility of actually taking care of the child. This would be a good choice for that kind of person. Me, on the other hand think that if your going to go through all the pain, love and every other sticky situation of being pregnant than i want a little bit more than say 50,000 dollars...How about the child? Yes I think so!! I am not saying that i have anything against this, I think it is fabulous for the people who cannot concieve with just themselves due to medical problems or what not. I just believe that you have to be a really strong emotionally stable person to be able to be a sergeant mother.

I think that adoption is also great, the fact that you can give a child a home that probably wouldnt have one if he or she were to stay with the biological family is outstanding! I think it should be done a little bit more often than being done now. I feel like our new form of "adoption" is "abortion" to not have the child at all, the futures new "birth control" which is utterly rediculous and also wants to make me vomit my dinner, but we will save that one for another blog entry!

Adoption and Sergeant mothers are not the same at all, they have their differences, and ups and downs. But, like i said you get the same little creation out of both. I know that there can be difficulties out of both of the choices of having children. But isnt there difficulties every time you step out of your house to go to school, or to the library? The world is a difficult place we have to learn to deal with it and not stub our noses at everything, and say "oh thats buying children" it is not the black market here. We are talking about people who want to become potential "families" with children and have a great life. If that takes adoption or getting a sergeant mother to be the womb for you child then i say so be it!! And good for you!! We need more people in the world to get kids off the street, and into family homes. We need to make lonley couples that cannot have children of thier own happy. It is not by "buying" children, it is by having children. Just because you did not give birth to your child does not mean it is any less of your child at all. You gave your child a home, clothes, most importantly love. If that isnt a parent than call me crazy.